Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.
Believe me when I tell you, in most cases you are what you attract. Unless you’re one of those “we had nothing in common and that’s what I liked” type of people. Now when you share common interest & lifestyles I’m sure it’s nice but people don’t take into consideration that in most cases when you’re in a relationship you get out what you put in. Meaning many women might not notice they aren’t putting in the “all” they except a man to put in because to them it’ll be made up by their other half without realizing that this eggs on a 80/20 relationship.
The biggest problem is generalization, now don’t say “well those are facts” because realistically speaking many generalizations made about women are more than 50% true, yet it’s not necessarily respected since women feel like they are picked on more unfairly than the opposite sex. At the rate we’re going it’ll definitely be equal, bullying you can say, between both parties sooner than later. I’ve learned many new ways to deal with a certain kind of person after every experience with the opposite sex. Many people disregard the logical aspects, and instead of generalizing the fail of a premature relationship I reflect instead of blaming men.
Learn to appreciate the infamous “ain’t shit” nigga, they are indeed extremely truthful. I’ve noticed that careless men aren’t appreciated like they should be for instance, they tell you what it is while letting you know what it is not. Unfortunately it is often warped into a forced Love because instead of being accepting of, women try to change characteristics of the person to make them adapt to their needs or what they consider “relationship material”. When you think of it that way you notice that everything was fine before you tried to fix something that wasn’t necessarily broken. If a man tells me they do not want to move on into a wholesome relationship then so be it, I accept it then I move on. What exactly do you get out of forced change except resentment from the other party?
As you progress with your love life you start to admire the little things like truth. You learn everything is by choice not force and that makes it easier to be accepting. Character traits are important to pay attention to it’ll help distinguish what kind of person you’re with. Remember you can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to do that’ll only turn you into an inconvenience. Some people must be taught but the difference between teaching and making is the other person must be willing to learn.
So think before you say “Niggas ain’t shit” and reflect on if signs were given and you fell victim to denial. Or maybe the universe didn’t align you two for a reason but you wanted to be selfish and accidentally brought misery upon yourself.